I Hate Liers..

There is not one of us that could say, in all honesty, that we haven't lied on several occasions. Most people lie when they are afraid of what would happen if they told the truth. According to Margaret Paul, Ph.D., "Lying may be one end of a relationship system, with anger and judgment on the other end." So why do people lie? There are many reasons-some simple, some more complex.

I hate liers.. More annoying then any other personality trait I can think of. And when you do catch someone in a lie they then tell another lie to cover the original. What is the purpose? To save face? To keep from hurting someone's feelings? Call me heartless if you want but I am honest to a fault..

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White lies as opposed to hurtful lies
written by Clifford Scott Carson , August 22, 2009

You have to understand, there are lies and then there are LIES. White lies such as "I was in the shower when you called" or "your dress looks nice" (when you don't think it does) are lies that don't really have any real consequences on people. White lies make much difference one way or another. Then there are LIES that are downright wrong, deceitful and cruel like "Billy broke your camera" when in reality you're the one who really did OR "I'm not stealing from you" when in actuality you are. THOSE are LIES that are deceiving people and putting them in a position of doubting their own good common sense.

When a person says they "hate liars" are they including themselves among the people they hate? Who among us doesn't lie to some degree or another on some occasion. I can be at a supermarket and a woman might ask me my opinion on her new hat. If I hate it, I'm not going to say I do. That's silly. If it gives her pleasure who am I to dump on it? It's better to say, "oh it's nice" and leave it at that. NOW, if they REALLY want me to be FRANK, then I have to say what I think in the nicest possible way like, "Gee, I'd like to see you in something else" or something to that effect.

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Different Strokes for Different Folks..
written by John Doe , August 22, 2009

To that lady in the super market you refer to.. I would tell her the hat was "interesting".. You can be nice and honest at the same time.

Even the white lies you speak of have consequences... Now your friend is wearing an ugly dress and the friend she asked didn't have the guts to tell her..

The lies I tell are to little kiddies that are asking me where we're going. I simply reply Alabama or North Carolina when we're really going to the park and I don't want to ruin the surprise.

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Lying to children ??
written by Clifford Scott Carson , August 22, 2009

Yes, saying "interesting" to the lady in the Supermarket would be another way. HOWEVER, Instead of saying to the child " we're going to Alabama or North Carolina" (when you're not) why not just say, "we're going to someplace special" or "we have someplace we have to be at" ?? That's not lying, but telling them you're going out of state is. Parents lie to children all the time and then turn around and get angry at the child when the child tells a lie. If there's anything I can't stand are adults who expect children to master something that they themselves never learned to master themselves. Yes, there are artful, softer less obtrusive ways of telling the truth without lying, but don't LIE to children and then get mad when you catch them in a lie. Where's the logic in that?

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Think Holliday...
written by John Doe , August 22, 2009

They know we're not going to North Carolina or Alaska or whatever other crazy place I've stated...

Lies that all parents tell and up hold:
Santa Claus..
Easter Bunny..
Tooth Ferry..

Those are parental lies I don't even like.. I avoid those questions at all cost..

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Transplant SANTA
written by Clifford Scott Carson , August 22, 2009

It's fun to kid with kids and have fun with all kinds of made up stories with them, but at the end of the day or at a crucial moment of truth I think the truth is important to tell. Doesn't mean you have to squash their hopes and dreams, but like yourself, I don't think I could lie to my children about Santa Claus, either. Not that I wouldn't play up how wonderful the character of Santa Claus is and how we can all be Santa Claus in life because the concept of Santa Claus is wonderful. Who knows, maybe I would for the first few years but as they got older I'm afraid I would have to gradually let them know. I always encourage a child's imagination and I don't want to do anything to prevent that from developing. It's okay for them to have imaginary friends, etc. I want them to grow up thinking the world is a wondrous place because it is, only too many people don't treat it that way. BUT, if my child is asking me a straight question, I do think I owe them the truth. However, I would hope I would be diplomatic and sensitive about how I explained it.

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it all boils down to....
written by Luke Guidry III , September 03, 2009

People are motivated by these simple truths. The anticipation of reward, Or the fear of consequence. All lies stem from these basic motivations.

Very eloquently put Cliff, that last post there deserves more attention.

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correction.
written by Luke Guidry III , September 03, 2009

Cliff: Your last 2 posts here are dead on. thats 2 up votes whatever they count for.

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The bipolar double agent Luke
written by Clifford Scott Carson , September 03, 2009

After being a dick and calling me a faggot, Luke now is trying to be nice. He must smoke alot of weed or he's all out of bipolar meds?? One or the other.

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true, I'm out of my depakote.
written by Luke Guidry III , September 03, 2009

like any other diabetic i get cranky when my sugar is off. if you don't want to call a truce thats fine by me. The pissing contest can continue as long as you like, I didnt realize you were so easily gotten to.

So now that I try to start a normal conversation with you I'm a "Double Agent". Was that the first time you've ever been called a fag. Grow some thicker skin, or have your mommy rub some lotion on it.

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