Article: I don't need your approval
Comment: Evolve
I appreciate your thoughts, and can understand where they came from. Sometimes I need a reminder to stay grounded and even though cynical thoughts can hurt sometimes they are very necessary. Thank you for the reminder, but keep in mind that I am also hearing that from everyone else.
I have never been through a divorce before myself, but I am very familiar with the process. My parents are divorced and both of them are remarried. Also, the court battles I mentioned before were custody cases that I helped my husband with. I fought very hard to be sure those two girls were able to see their father because that's what was right. I have seen a very nasty ugly side of proceedings. Between my parents and his two girls about $65,000 went right down the lawyer drain.
It's sick and mean and no one wins. I know very well that things can go sour easily and even if we can't stay friends forever I don't intend on hurting him. I don't want much anyway.
What I am definitely walking away with is the strong person that I have grown into and if I were to allow myself to become vindictive or mean I would be giving that up. He and I both agree that those are only signs of weakness. I also believe that all the talk about "just be careful, they will turn on you" is another way for people to boost their own self esteem. After all, if I could be nice and you couldn't it would show who the weaker being is, correct?
I don't know your situation, and can't pretend to give you advice on something I haven't exactly been through. I wish you the best in your breakup. I know it's hard. |