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The CHARMERS vs. the "FOR REAL" guys

Last Updated on Thursday, 11 June 2009 00:32
Written by Clifford Scott Carson Friday, 05 June 2009 20:19

Health - Psychological

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The world is made up of people who are positives and negatives. It's the energy of attraction. That is what makes for the chemistry that makes one attracted to a particular person as opposed to not. It's really a "positive" being attracted to a "negative" or a "negative" being attracted to a "positive'. This is not to say that the definition of positive and negative applies to people in the same manner as it obtains to the definition as described in the dictionary. This is not to say that "negatives" are better than "positives" or that visa versa. Nor is it indicating that a "positive" person is more positive thinking than a "negative" person is or visa versa . It's merely the law of attraction and energy, much like a battery getting it's positive charge from a negative. That said, being a "positive" myself, I'm attracted to negatives. This is what I'm been able to gather about "negatives" as far as their nature is concerned when it comes to my experience with them. I've also coined these "negatives" as BUD Types and BRETT types. Although both work in different ways, the "Bud type" is the type that what you see is what you get as opposed to the "Brett type" who is more the charmer. I also refer to the Brett types as "charmers". They are none the less 2 sides of the SAME COIN. Both work in completely different ways but the result is somewhat the same.

Some random and spontaneous thoughts concerning this type and what to do about it are as followed.

1. "negatives" or BUD/BRETT types spend their whole life doing what they can do to make people feel miserable. These people are really the ones who enjoy
   doing this.
2. When it comes right down to it they say all kinds of things to throw you off.
3. Everybody can find a way of feeling rejected if they so choose. Rejection by itself isn't so bad. It's what we do to ourselves after we've been rejected that
   makes it worse than it is. One is choosing to feel that way. Say to yourself, "it doesn't have much to do with me, it has to do with them".
4. It's good to be aware of when one is 1: Jumping to conclusions and 2. Being too quick to be disappointed.
5. ESP does exist, but it's in the air somewhere. It's too unreliable. The timing can be off. The time element is off.
6. The more you can shut off the things/thoughts that are controlling you the better chance you have at peace. It's taking up all the space in your mind. When you can get more room "there", you can see things more clearly. It's you that counts.
7. Don't get stuck on the relationship part. It's them that profits from these relationships.
8. It all boils down to making an effort.
9. You're choosing to let someone upset you. Ask yourself, "why am I choosing to feel this way today"? Being rejected doesn't hurt. It's what you do to yourself afterwards that matters. You can choose how you're going to feel.
10. You can feel sorry for a small child who gets in that pattern. Similarly I was the one who got stuck with the feeling/pattern of being/feeling rejected. Feeling "there's something wrong with me". Thinking that way is it's own form of insanity. Turned out it wasn't me, it was them.
11. I had to work on this. Seeing where my mind goes with it. When I was getting thoughts that weren't doing me good I would shut them off. Sometimes I had to shut them off every 2 minutes, to the point that it would lead to exhaustion at the end of the day. However, in doing this little things became easier.
12. There are the "charmers" and what I've coined as the "Brett" types. The "charmers" of the world are not quick to show their bad sides as are the "Buds" of the world. The "Bretts" have to be a nice person. The BUD types show their ugly side rather quickly. You might not see the ugly side of the BRETT type until the damage has been done. They're very good at keeping it hidden.
13. THE WORLD COURT: If everybody said you were 100% right and your enemy was 100% wrong, you'd still be stuck with the resentment over the situation.That part was you. You have to stop feeling that way.
14. So you really CLEAR YOUR MIND. Say, "I've spent enough time on this today". Be careful not to be too critical of yourself.
15. I don't have any feeling that I missed anything. IT'S WHERE I'M AT.
16. For all the intelligence people have, they keep doing what they are doing too. Being stuck is being stuck.
17. It's all a CHOICE. If you don't feel like you have a choice it all seems impossible.
18. Who has the "perfect" family?
19. Getting to a place where you're ready to do it. You have to get to a place where you can learn to make better choices.
20. People are more bothered by the things they can't solve.
    

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